The Fallen

The Fallen

By: T.T

“You are very pretty!”.  How many times in our lives that we, women, actually hear this from other women or even men? If you’re counting with your hand, I guarantee you’ll stop before the tenth finger. To be able to acquire this very rare compliment is by way of being physically enchanting, kind, funny, intelligent, and dazzling. One whole package embodied in one magnificent creature. Yes, I see your smile, don’t hold it. Is this girl real? Oh yeah, she’s real alright.  Oh, I also hear, “No, we are women of the twenty-first century, we are strong and independent, we don’t need compliments to be proud of ourselves, thank you.” Right… and who’s buying all those romance novels, may I ask? Women these days choose to deny ourselves the desire to be sought and fought for, because this makes us look greedy. 

So what do we do to fulfill that urge? We please ourselves with scoops of ice cream, new make-up products, latest fashion designs, and we do not limit ourselves to one purchase. That is a one positive way, somehow, to distract ourselves from being jealous of others’ lives. Unfortunately these only last for as much as a while. Ever heard of, “the only thing more tragic than the things that have happened to us is what we have done with them”? Bags of branded materials, scoops of ice creams sadly cannot undone the twisted view we have received from the most important people in our lives. From our parents, our closest friends, our teachers and other important figures in our lives. This is important, we need to realize that every single word that comes out of our mouth will shape other people as well. We may not know but it will affect the way they relate to the world. Sometimes, they are hurt to the point of wanting to hurt us as well, they want us to hurt just like they have been hurt. 

So that’s it? Are we going to hurt each other every time we are wounded? Have we let these mix feelings dictates our doings? Have we let these unhappy memories bury us in our fallen nature as women? If yes, this world will only contain revenge and anger every day. Nobody trusts nobody, such thing as intimacy and love will not exist in its natural form, but merely become a way of socializing for the sake of our needs. We become fake, wear masks, and hide our true self for fear of being truly seen and hurt again. The problem is, this is not how God wants us to live our lives. This is not how He plans it to be, He wants to live to our fullest and to be able to know that we are all precious, therefore hurting others is not a way to release our anger. 

Some wounds certainly don’t heal in a blink of an eye, we can’t just wish them away. However, when we choose to grow out of it, there is nothing impossible with God. Now, I didn’t say it’ll be a short flowery road to happiness. It will be the longest and most suffocating process we will have to undergo in our lives. We can choose to be pinned down, victimize, unworthy, and broken beyond repairs or we can crawl, grab, and come out of that deep dark hole of a part of our lives. Like I said, it will be long and heart-wrenching process, but God does not promise us all happy-Disney-show lives when He created us. There will always be flaws in our doings and that’s okay.. we are still learning and growing in our own pace. Look to no other direction, He is waiting for every one us in the finish line. Are we going to have a to-be-continued or a the-end?

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