WOUNDED FEMININITY

WOUNDED FEMININITY

By: TT

Most of our stories share a different theme. Life as God meant it to be for every little girl is a life where she is delighted in. She knows that her father loves and cherishes her, treats her as his little princess. He is her knight in shining armor, ready to protect her from every danger. He spends time with his little girl and talks about many things with her. The little girl knows that her mother loves and wants her. This is the soil a girl's heart is meant to grow in, this is the garden her young heart is meant to flourish within. In this place, she can grow and become a strong, beautiful and confident woman. If only that is the reality for all of us.

You cannot live very long without being wounded. Broken hearts cannot be avoided in this beautiful yet dangerous world we live in. This is not the perfect Eden. Take a deep look into anyone's eyes, behind the smiles we share or the fear we tend to hide, you will find pain. When we are loved and cherished by our family, some women out there are not. The lives they live in are only movies to us, the danger and pain inflicted to them are only nightmares to us. Those women never receive love and they are terrified of their parents. In addition, they shut themselves in, along with their hearts. Sometimes, people who do not understand this, will only see this act as, “she's going through puberty”, or “she hasn't grown”. True, because it takes years and great effort to sort through the wounds and messages that has shaped life for them. It is a journey of knowing understanding, clarity and healing.

As a result of wounds in life, we come to believe that some part of us, maybe every part of us, is tainted. Shame blocks us from interacting with other people, we avoid eye contact with friends or even strangers. We are not everything we long to be, all that God longs us to be. As a result, femininity in our eyes means being hurt, weak and unable to defend ourselves. Furthermore, instead of coming with grace-filled air, people around us look at us in pity and sorrow. Words are said, painful words, more hurtful than the things we have been through. We accepted a twisted view to our lives and to ourselves. We vow to never be in that kind of place again. We adopted strategies to protect ourselves, and to prevent those things from happening again. A woman who is living out of a broken and wounded heart is a woman who lives a protective life

Desperation for love and affirmation is those women's thirst. They long for love and adventure filled with romance and beauty. They lost themselves in their work, in some sort of service for humanity and for women. The problem is our plan has nothing to do with God's plan. The wounds we received send us to our fallen nature as women. But the wounds we received should not stop us from growing out of it, it should not be the theme of our lives. Let it be the one part we may not tell others but will forever be an important part of our lives that DOES NOT shape we are and how we live. We must take God's hand and remember that we are precious. You are precious! Do not be held captive and be a life-time prisoner of our wounds and live to blame the rest of the world to that. He never designs us to live a wounded life, a wounded femininity. Remember making vows and keeping distance from others do not make things better, we will only miss out on more beautiful plans God has prepared for us.

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